While attending a uterine fibroid embolization workshop, I met two older ladies that healed themselves from fibroids with dietary changes, self-care, a belief in a higher power and massaging their vagina (yoni). When I heard them say that I just had to ask, “Do you mean masturbate or actually just massage your yoni? They said both were important for female health, but they were referring to massaging the external parts of the vagina. So why was this so important? and why I was this my first time hearing about this? I mean I have heard of masturbation, but not vaginal massage.
Vaginal or Yoni massage should be 5-10 minutes a day and has several benefits to include:
- Boost suppleness and increase circulation of the skin of the vulva and vagina
- Loosen the muscles of the pelvic floor
- Intensifies orgasms and better vaginal health
- Improve well-being and sensuousness
- Reverse vaginal atrophy for menopausal women
- Assist with child birth, daily massage of vaginal and pernieal massage after 35th week, can decrease perineal tears during childbirth
- Provide intimacy with sexual partner
- Increase natural lubrications of the vagina during and before sexual intercourse
So now that we have the benefits out of the way, how do you actually perform the act of vaginal massage? Vaginal massage can be used for external and internal massage using water based gel, lubricant, olive oil, Vitamin E and/or organic coconut oil. Can you believe that some women are actually paying for professional vaginal massages and an organism isn’t the main reason women are doing this? So lets compare a self-massage versus a professional massage shall we.
Self-vaginal massage will go something like this:
- While in the nude, lie down and apply a water based gel/lubricant/coconut oil to the middle or index finer
- Push into the skin with circular strikes and massage deeply into the vaginas surface including the inner lips, the hood, head of the clitoris and perineum (the skin and muscle between the vagina and anus)
- Move through your yoni until you reach the opening canal and use the same circular motion and proceed with internal vaginal massage if you desire to
- To continue the internal massage, some people chose to use a dildo to stimulate the vaginal canal, while others just chose to massage the external region of the yoni
A vaginal masseuse treats a vaginal massage as a ceremony in which several aspects of the female anatomy is assessed and treated.
Professional Vaginal Massage will be different from the Self- vaginal Massage:
- Deep breathing exercises are initiated to bring awareness to the clients body and pelvic floor or even rolling on an exercise ball to engage the pelvis
- The clients body is then massaged with essential oil(s) with focus on erogenous zones e.g breast, nape of neck, inner thigh, followed by a hip flexor stretch
- The client is placed in butterfly position and the masseuse places their hands on the clients vulva and the client is asked to repeat breathing exercises. (Masseuse wear gloves throughout this process)
- The client is constantly asked how she feels, if the client is willing, the massage therapist will analyze the inside of the woman’s vagina and if a tight spot is found the masseuse presses it and the client is asked to contract around the fingers of the therapist and release.
- Some people have an orgasm, but the massage is more about discovering what makes you feel good and emotional release.
So you may be wondering, how much this cost? And can I afford something like that? It can typically cost 300.00 or more for this vaginal massage. If you ask me, what better way to incorporate self care by doing a vaginal massage on yourself. The frequency in which vaginal massage should be done varied from daily to once a week, but I believe it’s your preference. Another article I read suggested after urinating, to use some coconut oil after wiping, but just like anything else, do what works for you. And what better way to find out what works for you than by experimenting. Vaginal massage is perfectly normal and has been in existence for some time, but err on the side of caution if you are prone to yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis and/or bacterial infections.
I grew up hearing the older people saying “there is nothing new under the sun” and guess what? They were right. I would have never thought that an older woman in her late 60’s or early 70’s would inform me of vaginal massage and how essential it was to healing. Healing involves the mind, body and soul, so why not try something new that can deepen your connection with yourself, your emotions and your partner.